Dating as a skill, not luck

Many perceive dating as a matter of luck: if you're lucky, you'll meet your partner; if you're unlucky, you won't. However, it's increasingly becoming clear that successful dating is a skill—the milestones of relationships—that is developed through experience, awareness, and the ability to draw conclusions. Relationships rarely arise by chance; they grow from consistent actions.

Dating skill includes the ability to communicate, listen, ask questions, and express feelings. It also involves the ability to notice warning signs and not ignore them for the sake of an illusion of intimacy. A person who develops this skill quickly understands which relationships are possible and which are not.

Online dating offers a wide range of practice, but requires mindfulness. Superficial correspondence and quick breakups do not develop skill; they only create fatigue. A mindful approach involves analyzing experiences: what worked, where discomfort arose, what reactions are repeated.

An important element of this skill is the ability to end relationships sustainably. Not all relationships are meant to last, and that's okay. The ability to end a conversation honestly and calmly maintains respect for yourself and the other person and reduces emotional tension.

This way, dating stops being a chaotic process. It becomes a skill that can be developed. Mindfulness, observation, and a willingness to learn from experience make dating more productive and increase the chances of building mature, sustainable relationships.